Monday, June 30, 2008

23 things to keep the romance alive -

Here, easy but so-worth-it ways to jump-start both of your hearts.

1. Share a Secret Code
Pick a word that's likely to come up occasionally in conversation (heat, midnight, bedroom, whipped cream...) and agree that every time someone uses it, you have to touch — anything from a kiss to a lingering thigh stroke under the table.

2. Transform Dinner into Dining

That midweek post-grind meal you devour together? Make it register off the mush-o-meter with some tiny adjustments to the atmosphere. "Pull out your nicest dishes and light a couple of candles, even if you're just having a mushroom pizza," suggests Gregory Godek, author of 1001 Ways to Be Romantic (Casablanca Press, 2000). "It's the mood, not the food, that sets a romantic scene. So stick a bouquet of daisies from the corner store in the center of the table, lower the lights, and turn up Enrique Iglesias or Bessie Smith. You could even conveniently forget the utensils so you have an excuse to feed each other."

3. Get Swept Off Your Feet
Make up your own tango moves and groove with your guy for 15 minutes while you wait for dinner. Pop in the Marc Anthony CD, then press your pelvises together, entwine your legs, and twist and twirl around the living room. "Slow dancing is so intimate," says Godek. "The way you stand hip-to-hip, block out the world, and sway to each other's rhythms ... now you're really cookin'."

4. Outlaw Grunge-Wear
You and your guy are having a Blockbuster night. But wait, think twice before you change into your lounging-on-the-couch clothes ... you know, oversize T-shirt, shabby sweater. That gear isn't exactly a recipe for a night of making googly eyes. Instead, slip into something a little more comfortable but a lot more cuddle-enticing. "A fitted T-shirt or a semisheer tank top, especially when worn without a bra, is a lot sexier than some too-big shirt you're swimming in," says fashion designer and Cosmo contributing editor Shoshanna Lonstein. "Pair it with your favorite perfectly worn-out blue jeans or khaki cutoffs for a casual but irresistible look."

5. Dish with Him
Flash back to the '50s and get passionate over pots and pans. "Okay, it's totally old-fashioned and cornball, but I find doing dishes together incredibly romantic," says Janet, a 28-year-old chiropractor. "My dishwasher went on the blink one night, and my boyfriend offered to help clean up. We both rolled up our sleeves and got sudsy in the warm water. We talked about the places we'd love to travel to, the crazy things we'd like to try just once in our lives, and our hands kept touching — we just got completely lost in each other as we did this mindless activity. It was so sweet and oddly intimate that I haven't bothered to get the dishwasher fixed."

6. Touch Tenderly in Front of the TV
When you're both chilling out in front of the tube, heat things up with some hands-on action. "Give each other mini foot massages while watching the evening news," suggests Laura Corn, author of 101 Nights of Grrreat Romance (Park Avenue Publishers, 1995). "Or lay your head in his lap and let him stroke your hair." For the ultimate drive-in date experience, invest in an extralong extension cord and watch TV outside on the deck or on lawn chairs on the front stoop underneath the stars.

7. Flash Him
When no one's looking, give your guy a sneak peek in public. Granted, it's not exactly violins-in-the-background romantic, but it's certainly guaranteed to send his heart (and pulse) soaring.

8. Send Him a Sweet Afternoon Treat
If you know your guy's facing a particularly grueling, sucky afternoon at the office, call up a local restaurant that delivers and send him an I'm-thinking-about-you lunch, suggests Ilene Rosenzweig, coauthor of Swell: A Girl's Guide to the Good Life (Warner Books, 1999). Let him know dessert's waiting at your place later.

9. Play the Dating Game
Get out of the same old Saturday-night film-and-food groove. For your next date, come up with three out-of-the-ordinary evening ideas — perhaps a starlit ferry ride, a game of mini golf, dinner at a restaurant with a kind of food you've never tried, or even seen, before — and write them down on index cards, suggests David D. Coleman, coauthor of Date Smart! How to Stop Revolving and Start Evolving in Relationships (Prima Publishing, 1999). "Then, have your guy blindly choose one of the cards and embark on a mysterious, exotic adventure."

10. Keep Him in the Dark
For the ultimate lights-out love nudge, fake a power outage. "Unplug the phone, computer, and TV, then turn off all the lights," instructs Godek. "With nothing else to distract you, you have no choice but to break out the candles and cling to each other as you tell scary ghost stories ... or just plain cling to each other."

11. Ban the Peck
Replace that chaste, no-effort lip graze with a 10-second smooch — and make every single kiss a bit of bliss.

12. Map Out the Hot Spots in Your Neighborhood
Make it your mission to fool around in every prime passion nook of your neighborhood — behind trees, on nearby park benches, under a lamppost. Every time you walk out your front door with your dream guy, hit one of these desire-designated areas until you have the whole area PDA'd.

13. Write Him a Sexy Check
While you're taking care of the bills, take care of your guy with a personal payment for head-to-toe kisses, suggests Godek. "Tell him he can cash in anytime."

14. Make Out Every Time You're Alone in an Elevator
Use this love-lifter as a cue to sneak in a secret smooch session.

15. Read Seductive Stories to Each Other
Pick up a steamy best-seller like Vox, by Nicholson Baker (it certainly got Monica boiling for Bill), and take turns reading it aloud. "My boyfriend and I love sharing juicy novels," says Liz, a 30-year-old producer. "We'll get in bed or curl up on the couch and take turns being the narrator. At first I was a bit nervous and rigid — I sounded like Rod Serling from The Twilight Zone — but eventually I found my natural rhythm and got really turned on by it. It's so utterly romantic because we're in this sort of fantastical fictional world together rather than sticking our noses in our respective books. And listening to my boyfriend's voice is unbelievably sexy."

16. Go Postal
Create some surprising postal passion by mailing I-want-you notes to your man. Start by telling him exactly what you love about every part of his body.

17. Play Barber Babe
Show your man some passionate pampering by giving him a sensual shave. After his morning shower, lather up his face with a great-smelling shaving cream and slide the razor in the direction the hair grows. "It's a way to steal a very intimate moment when you're both usually so rushed to get out the door," says Kelly, a 26-year-old massage therapist who loves to groom her guy. "Not to mention the perfect excuse to straddle him."

18. Tempt Him with a Slew of Where-to-Find-You Clues
Make your usual rendezvous a million times racier by keeping them mysterious for your man. "I have a standing Friday-evening drink date with my boyfriend," says Sue, a 27-year-old tax attorney. "To keep it exciting, I have this trick for spicing things up: I send him on a treasure hunt ... to find me. I pick an obscure, out-of-the-way bar, one we'd never normally go to in a million years. Then every hour on the hour during the workday, I send my boyfriend an e-mail feeding him clues about where I want him to meet me that night — little riddles that hint at the name, landmarks that will lead him to the location. When he puts all the pieces together, he finds me waiting in the most private booth I can find. Now he's scheming up the next mystery meeting."

19. Hold the Sports Section Hostage
Steal the paper before your guy gets a chance to check out the scores. Place a ransom note on his pillow and insist that your demands for a.m. sex, smooching, and snuggling be met before you'll consider giving him access to the stats.

20. Outlaw Work Talk
Make office gripes and groans a taboo topic when having dinner with your doll. "My boyfriend and I make meals our time," says Anne, a 29-year-old furniture maker. "We talk about upcoming vacations, friends, movies — anything that lets us share ideas instead of bombarding each other with tales of work woes. After eight hours of focusing on other people on the job, it's such a luxurious treat to indulge in some time that's all about us." If professional topics accidentally pop up, quash them by saying, "Get your mind out of the grind and back onto me."

21. Give Him an All-Day "Scentual" Reminder
"The next time your guy sleeps over, spritz a small item of clothing — scarf, underwear, camisole — with your signature fragrance, and slyly slip it into his briefcase or backpack," suggests author Corn. "With your sexy scent wafting out every time he reaches into his bag, he won't be able to take his mind off of you." When the clock strikes 5, he'll follow his nose all the way to your front door.

22. Get a Sound Track
Create your relationship repertoire by picking a few favorite songs (a sentimental score, a sultry in-the-mood croon, a sassy "Feel the Earth Move"-type number) that really capture the essence of your couplehood and make them yours by playing them on romantic, sexy occasions.

23. Compliment Each Other in Public
"My girlfriend tells everyone that I'm the most talented person she's ever met," says Andrew, 28, a teacher. "She'll tell a cashier, 'We'll take a chocolate brownie because my guy so deserves it.' When she introduces me, she says, 'This is my hilariously funny boyfriend' or 'Meet my handsome boyfriend. He puts George Clooney to shame.' My heart jumps every time. I swear it makes going to the deli sexy."

Wedding Soundtrack

Me: What songs should play in the background?
Mom: I don't know sweet love songs
Me: Oh, I should try to find some stuff Kevin would like
Mom: Nothing with cussing
Me: Okay. Then "Love in the Club" would be okay?
Mom: No, doesn't sound like it would
Me: But he's going to
Mom: What? Who's going to?
Me: Kevin is going to, Bag me like some groceries
Mom: Kara, shut up.

Friday, June 27, 2008

Open it and other random bits

I live in country. At night, my hallway is dark. When I get up to go to the bathroom, I rarely turn the light on so I don't burn my eyes. Either my mother or my father ALWAYS shuts the bathroom door after they use the restroom. Every time I go to the bathroom, BAM!, I run straight smack into the door. You'd think by like the 3rd or 4th time, I'd learn, right? Nope. I run into that door every time I get up at night. Every time!

Tomorrow is Eric's "Welcome home from your 13 month deployment" party. His parents are going all out. They even invited the UPS man. And Eric is coming into the party in a fire department driven hummer. His parents are making a HUGE deal out of this. They are so proud of their son! I'm making a cake. I wonder how many people are going to be there. I wonder if there will be good parking...

Kevin is having a party tonight at our house. He says it isn't a party but there's more than 3 people there, that's totally a party. I asked him what time they might be leaving, he said not till the morning. That's a party. I really don't care, just admit that you're having a party! As long as no girls are involved, I'm good.

My mom and I sold some gold today. We had a bunch of broken chains and random earrings. My mom said she felt like a hoosier. I did not. At all. I felt fine after that guy handed us a $142.59 check. I'm broke.

Jen and Eric had dinner tonight and I was there, along with the Flamms. Amanda had asked me to hand her a beer, Eric was in the fridge so I asked him to hand me one. He did and I said, "Thanks babe." Babe? Since when did I start calling my bro-in-law babe? A K W A R D. So I laughed and quickly said, "Oh I mean bro." Too late he heard the babe. Awkward.

And now I'm sleepy and need to interrupt Kevin's party to talk to him. Night!

fo shizzle, sizzle

Me and my sizzle have a great relationship. We are hilarious. But, if we try to bring anyone else into our sizzle circle, they just think we're weird. Usually when we are together and our husband/fiancee are around, they just sit there and look at each other, knowing they're in the same boat as the other. Settled with a crazy girl.
Although, a lot of times, me or my sizzle will start saying something and suddenly everyone around us is saying it. Some of these words are:
1. hubby [my sister says this, i hate this word
2. Gina [as vagina, without the va]
3. vag
4. fo sho
5. busta

Okay, so the list isn't that long. But we like coming up with sayings that no one else around us is saying. We're just that cool I guess?

My mom thinks we're funny. So does your mom...

Thursday, June 26, 2008

One of Those days

It just is. It's just one of those days. I miss Kevin terribly. I would give anything to be in our house with him. Earlier he said, "Before you know it, we'll be around each other all the time, getting on each others nerves." I can't wait for that! I would love for him to be annoying me right now than this missing him crap. It really is so very close, but it seems S O F A R A W A Y. I'm just very moody tonight. I have no idea why. I was great all day, but as soon as I got in the car with my dad, I was crabby. I'm sure it's his fault.

I miss Kevin. I want my Kevie. I'm a sap. Fo sho.

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Just stop. Be quiet. Make the food.

I love the food network. LOVE IT! I watch it almost 24/7. I go online to find recipes that I saw on-line and make myself. Here's the list of shows on Food Network I enjoy watching:

1. Semi-Homemade with Sandra Lee
2. Ace of Cakes
3. Barefoot Contessa
4. Cooking For Real
5. Everyday Italian
6. Food Network Challenge
7. Good Eats with Alton Brown
8. Healthy Appetite with Ellie Krieger
9. Nigella Bites
10. Paula's Best Dishes
11. Paula's Home Cooking
12. Paula's Party
13. Quick Fix Meals with Robin Miller
14. Simply Delicioso
15. Tyler's Ultimate
16. 30-Minute Meals

Yeah, I watch a lot of the food network. Now, Rachel Ray. Her food always looks delicious, but she has got to be the most annoying person on television. Yumm-O? EVOO? Sammie? She throws salt and pepper over her shoulder for luck, every time? Just stop it and be quiet. Make the food.

What's the most annoying Rachael Ray catchphrase?

Posted Dec 11th 2007 12:33PM by Bob Sassone

Rachael RayThere are several "Rachael Rayisms" (I think she coined the term herself), and we all have our favorite. Or should I say our least favorite of all the ones we don't like.

Mine used to be "EVOO," but that has become such a part of the everyday food lexicon that I consider it a real food term now and not just something that Ray says (in fact, I believe the Oxford Dictionary just added it?). I'm gonna go with "Delish," because it embodies everything that's silly about the worst cooking shows and just overall lameness. Plus she says it in that new Christmas Dunkin' Donuts commercial and it drives me nuts. Other phrases she uses: "You guys!," "Parmigiano Reggiano," "awesome," and the classic "Yum-O."

To get you in the mood, after the jump, 2 minutes and 46 seconds of Rachael Ray saying "mmmmmmm."

I found these other videos to help support my opinions:

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Wedding Favors a.k.a. I'm a genius

And this is my new favorite wedding detail! This is the design we are putting on magnets for our favors. This way, family and friends can have our new contact information. I designed that all by myself. I am SO PROUD of my design!! How cute is that??! And I know in my house, we stick a magnet on the fridge and it stays there f o r e v e r. So in a few weeks, months, or years a guest at our wedding will see it on their fridge and say "HMMM...Kara, I wonder how she is doing? I know! I'll call her! Or write her a letter! Or e-mail her!" How wonderful would that be? I give myself an A+++ for this idea!


I am horrible at making coffee. I don't drink it everyday and usually only drink one or two glasses when I make it, but that's probably because I make either WAY too strong or don't put enough coffee in the filter making it smell and taste burnt. I can't figure out the ratio of amount of coffee to the amount of water. I'm tempted just to use the amount of water it takes to fill one coffee mug to make coffee when I move to NYC, cause my momma won't be there to make it for me! haha. And Kevin doesn't drink coffee. I have to learn how to make it well, cause I'm not paying $5 for a decent cup of coffee when I feel like having coffee. McDonald's coffee isn't too much but their coffee is gross. So my mother is going to have to show me the correct coffee making way. I can see myself now...In NYC, making my first pot of coffee, it turning out badly, as usual: cue me breaking down and sobbing for awhile cause I can't even make a pot of coffee without my mom to help me. Not a pretty picture. Like Kevin says: I'm a sap.

Monday, June 23, 2008

I am

Contrary to Kevin's belief, I am so excited to move to NYC. Yeah, I want to stay with family, but I want to live with Kevin in New York City more. I mean, C'MON! It's freaking New York City!!!! I am the one that told Kevin I wanted to live IN the city, rather than outside it. Every time I see a shot of the New York City anything on television, my breath catches in my throat. I think to myself, "I'm going to LIVE there!"
As of now, I have a New York apartment and a New York phone number. Soon to have New York internet and cable.
Kevin keeps asking about what else we need for the apartment, cause he'll just buy it now and be done with it, but the more I think about it, the more I realize, we don't need anything else. I have everything for our place right here. In St. Louis. In my basement.

And today is a bigish day!!

Only 75 days until We are married!!!!!!!!!!!! Only 75!!

Saturday, June 21, 2008

At last....sort of

I mailed out my wedding invitations yesterday.

I wanted to do it a few weeks ago cause I wanted to make sure people could make time in their schedules to come. Then I wanted to wait a few more weeks because I didn't want people to forget. So I decided just to get it over with. Now I'm excited about getting the response cards back.

On another note. Kevin and his tuxedo are really starting to piss me off. Oh wait, they've already pissed me off. I had a deal thingy where he would get a free tux rental. At first, he wanted to get his in New York cause our tux place didn't have anything fly enough for him. Fine, all well and good, do whatever you want. So I would just remind him every so often to go talk about renting his tux, cause he has to see how much it is and let them know he needs it a week before and after the wedding and find out if and how much extra that would be.

Now he's saying he'll just take the free tux. WHAT?! We already told my dad he could have the free one, or we split it up between my nephews so my sister wouldn't be paying out the ass for her 4 children to be in my wedding, I can't remember.

So now all of the sudden he decides he'll just take the free one?? That's not fair! And all he'd have to do now is go get measured, and he won't even do that shit. And he won't talk about it. I also wanted all the little boys just to have nice black pants and white shirts and a navy colored tie in the wedding, Kevin refused, he didn't want any of that. I'm seriously just done with all this wedding shit. All I know is Kevin better have a tuxedo to wear at the wedding.

Friday, June 20, 2008

Doodle Go Bop

This makes me laugh every time I see it. Of course my nephew Parker is fine. His mom told me that right after this he got up, brushed himself off
and went up the ladder to go down the slide. So NO, I am not a mean aunt!!

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Welcome Home!

Well, after a year long deployment, my sister's husband is back from Iraq! Today was a wonderful day, seeing everyone reunited with their family after such a L O N G time!! I could tell Sgt. Larson was sooo glad to be home, as was his wife and children.I'm so happy that everyone got home safely!! Praise God!

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Is this a sign?

I'm talking to Kevin as I type. He was going to the apartment to get the keys to our place and...

He can't find the building.

He's been there before, but they took a car and he's walking now. The buildings go from 1561, 1563, 1575. Ours is 1564.

So he crossed the street and still isn't sure where it is. This doesn't look good.


He found it. He found it. I'm not there, but he found it... :( :)

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Freak Out?

So, WE GOT OUR APARTMENT. It was the only neighborhood in the Bronx I had walked through and loved so I am overjoyed that we got the apartment we wanted.

That's the floor plan.

I have sooo many emotions running through me at the moment. Joy, Fright, Happiness, anxiety, worry, just to name a few. I really won't be able to move up until the wedding in September. UGH! That drives me nuts, especially when Kevin will move in tomorrow!

I feel like I have a million things to pack and accomplish before September and move in date. I don't know what to do. I'm not really even relaxed writing all of this right now...

I will write more later.

On another note: I got contacts and cute new sunglasses:

Sunday, June 15, 2008


I just spent a great weekend with my sister = my sizzle. Here's some past pictures of all the fun we've had together:

My ______ things

So I was going into Target and was looking around and decided I would list some of my feelings towards certain things I see, think, hear, experience, and etc.

My Favorite Things

1. When Kevin calls
2. Taking Pictures
3. When Kevin calls me "baby"
4. Delicious smelling candles
5. Watching cooking shows
6. Making something from a cooking show that turns out right
7. Really cool kitchen utensils
8. Sparkley jewelry
9. Good, sweet coffee
10. My nieces & nephews
11. A fun sizzle night
12. Talking for 1+ hours with Kevin
13. Finding AWESOME stuff on clearance
14. Dollar spot at Target
15. The cuppycake song Song here
16. Grocery shopping
17. I love my engagement ring
18. When Kevin tells me stories
19. Thinking up cute kids' names
20. Finding the perfect gift for someone [I'm very good at that]

Things I dislike

1. Arguing
2. People who refuse to listen
3. Hard-boiled eggs
4. The smell of HB eggs
5. My camera breaking
6. The words: "hate", "shut up", "stupid", "snagger", "panties", "cunt"
7. Someone that does something to purposely piss me off
8. People who talk over me
9. Waiting
10. Waiting

Things that make me laugh

1. Sizzle Time!!
2. Gabby
3. Parker
4. Will Ferrel
5. Aqua Teen Hunger Force
6. The Soup
7. Best Week Ever
8. The movies: "Talledega Nights", "Superbad", "Half-Baked", "Knocked-Up"
9. Dave Chapelle
10. Kevin

Let me know some of your things or if you feel the same or opposite of my things!

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Let's start at the very begining

I had a fitness blog for a little bit, but in true Kara fashion, that didn't last long. I kept thinking of things to write that had nothing to do with getting healthy so I didn't feel I could write it in that blog. So I have decided to create a new blog. Blogging is all the rage these days.

Ok, So a bit about me: I am 25 years old, going to be 26 in December. When I turned 25 all I could think about was being 1/4 of a century old. I know in the general scheme of things, I'm a spring chicken, but I feel old.

I grew up in Florissant, MO and went to 2 schools my entire life. Russell Elementary and then to Hazelwood West Jr./Sr. High. I tried college long enough for my parents to remind me often how much of their money I wasted. I was more into going out, partying, doing what I wanted. I have a condition that is now in remission. It's called "IwantwhatIwantwhenIwantit" syndrome.

In September of 2005 [I really cannot believe it was almost 3 years ago] I was in a near fatal car accident. I know now that, while God didn't "purposely" make me have a car accident, I thank God that I did.

I was on my way out of the house at like 1 am and i somehow went on the opposite side of the road up on a hill and my car rolled down the hill. Luckily someone was there practically right after it happened and called the ambulance. I was helicoptered to St. Johns. I was in a coma for about a month. I broke 3 ribs and punctured my left lung. I messed up my head- I hurt the pons in my brain and i broke my 2nd vertebrae - which is lucky cause that could have killed me or paralyzed me. I some how ended up out of the car and under the hood and my left arm got 3rd degree burns on it and I had to have a graft from my thigh for that. They think that while I was in the coma I had a stroke on my left side as well. I also broke my jaw in 2 places and had to have that fixed and my mouth was wired shut for a while. I didn't get out of the hospital till Nov.18th.

Luckily I don't remember the accident or how I got in it and no one saw it. I also don't remember the whole monthish before or after the accident.

I learned a lot from this time in my life. I learned who my true friends were. I learned that nothing is more important than family. I also learned that my sister [we're sizzles] is and will always be my best friend in the whole world.

So while I was recovering from the hospital stay at home, my dad hooked up my computer to the internet in my room. Score! I found out about Myspace and was instantly hooked. I had tons of time to sit on the computer! Also, before the accident I had met a guy at a club? When I woke up from my coma, I didn't [and still don't] remember meeting him or anything. It was his house I was headed to the night of the accident. He was at the hospital everyday for the first 2 weeks I was in the hospital. Then suddenly stopped coming. My sister found out that he went to jail. We started communicating A LOT back and forth through letters, letters, and more letters. We talked on the phone rarely through his mom. For some dumb crazy reason I said I would commit to being with him only - so basically "going out". That was NOT the smartest thing I've ever done. I visited him in jail a couple times.

Now, while I was "dating" Ken, I met Kevin. We met through a myspace group and started chatting on AOL. The same day we first started talking, I gave him my phone number. He called and we've talked everyday since then, for hours and hours. Ken, "Jailbird", was being a locked up jerk, so I broke up with him, before he got released, thank goodness. Kevin jumped at the opportunity and we started "daring". Now that is in parenthesis because Kevin lives in Bronx, NY. That's 997 miles from where I live.

We talked everyday, for hours, for 9 months when he decided to travel to STL so we could meet face to face. He was only going to be there for Friday through Monday, and my parents said he could stay at the house, they had both talked to him too and 9 months of talking is a long time. I picked him up from the airport and we didn't miss a beat. It was the same, but better, as when we talked on the phone.

Since then, we've gone to the other's city to visit as much as we can. I'll stay at his house and he'll stay at mine.

Well, that first weekend he visited, we went to a park and he proposed to me on a bench. And I said yes! The wedding is September 6, 2008 [yeah that's this year] here in St. Louis. Then, that same weekend, I'm moving to Bronx, NYC.

I'm so excited! I finally get to be with my love! So along with wedding plans, I'm packing up 35 years of my St. Louis life and moving it to NYC.

Well, that's about it! I will be updating this A LOT so stay tuned!!

Thanks for reading it all!